How to Deal with Men?
This one is for all my lady friends out there!
Ever had strange men ogling their eyes at you? staring deep into your soul? Or just randomly giving you that horribly long stare before they give the “I wish I could pounce on you” look?
I think most of us have crossed these situations in our lives, I know it sucks but we have no other option. Women succumb to this behavior every single day, Maybe its fine for men just to dress up and leave, but for an Indian woman, it is a routine ritual to abide by the checklist -
- Unrevealing Dress
- Shawl
- Loose and long Shirts
- Not very tight or Ass revealing pants
- Not very short shorts
- Check your whole outfit thrice in the mirror to make sure every part of your body is neatly covered
- Pepper Spray
- Knife (If needed LOL)
- Power Bank (Fully Charged)
- SOS/Emergency number loaded on your device
- Tracking details to be sent to a minimum of three contacts
I remember once, when I returned around 9 pm at a metro station and I was just waiting for my friend to join me so we could go together, Almost 3–5 men were staring at me up and down, I started to get uncomfortable and covered my face and moved away. At that time I didn’t know how to react in such a situation.
The more and more I was being exposed to such a situation the lesser I started to care, I began to think this is how it is going to be, there will be a million eyes on you from your home to office, you can’t do anything about it. And I was right, You can’t do anything about it, but what you can do is change your mindset.
I noticed if you are strong and portray yourself to be fearless, men take a step back.
All you need to do is be bold enough and look them right into their eye till they face the other side. They just stop after a point.
It is tough but it is how it is, I always ran away from these situations.
I was scared, I was mentally harassed by an old servant guy who visited my home when I was in 8th grade, you heard it right, “8th Grade”. He would come daily and talk to me, tell me he likes me.
I was disgusted by this and I was so scared I didn’t tell my parents, neighbors, anyone. If I ever saw him come home I would run away and hide in another room or behind my parents. I was young and had no idea what to do. This scared me for life, every time I see a laborer and someone similar to him my heart starts to pound and I avoid any contact with them.
My whole life I have had several horrible experiences where I was taken advantage of.
But it took me years to realize if only I defended myself, kicked that guy in the face, and told him to fuck off, my life would have been more sorted out now.
How I wish I had super powers to have done that at many instances in my past.
To every woman who has to battle men like these every day, my only advice would be to be fearless, Be Bold, Be strong.
This will not stop until you take that step to be bold and kick them back. They may be physically stronger than us but their biggest weakness is also us “Women”.
We need to instill a notion in their head that “You can’t mess with me”.
We should work more towards being emotionally and physically strong, it is the only way we can combat and protect ourselves.
At the same time educate men within your reach, you sons, husbands and brothers about treating and respecting women equally.
For all I know, it is in our hands to create a better world for our future generations!
